a healthy spiritual life - just like your physical body - is all about balance - exercise - nutrition - rest - it's all important
realtionships need balance too - i've been sharing all week in posts and blogs about choosing your top five relationships - choosing your peers wisely - but how do we connect with the unchurched when we are cutting them out of our lives? - remember - balance
first let me say there are only a few people you "cut" out of your life - someone who is a bad influence is one - if you're a recovering alcoholic you don't need any drinkers around - period - you cut them out - think about whatever it is that you stuggle with - you need to cut off people who are engaged in that activity - even if you struggle with doubt - or a negative attitude - or depression - cut people like that out of your life
yet some of you argue that you need to reach them - wrong answer! - recovering alcoholics have to let someone else rescue the drunks - they can't risk going anywhere near a bar - men with roving eyes can't risk trying to help a damsel in emotional distress - get the idea? - the people God wants you to reach are not the ones who will destroy you - you need to pour into people out of your strengths - not out of your struggles
so if you're a former alcoholic - and a great parent - chances are God will use you to reach a struggling parent - or maybe even be a big brother or sister to a needy child
pour yourself - and your time - into people that need you - people that are weaker than you - but you never allow them to be your mentors! - or confidants - those who are stuggling don't need your problems, too - you only confide in those who are stronger than you - you only allow people stronger than you to impact your life - you only allow people wiser than you to pour into you
think about it like tutors - a high school senior may tutor a 9th grader - but the same senior needs a college student - or grad - to tutor them - but they would never ask someone who struggles academically to be their tutor!
so here's the balance - we receive from those we can look up to in some way - and we share with those who are looking up to us
realtionships need balance too - i've been sharing all week in posts and blogs about choosing your top five relationships - choosing your peers wisely - but how do we connect with the unchurched when we are cutting them out of our lives? - remember - balance
first let me say there are only a few people you "cut" out of your life - someone who is a bad influence is one - if you're a recovering alcoholic you don't need any drinkers around - period - you cut them out - think about whatever it is that you stuggle with - you need to cut off people who are engaged in that activity - even if you struggle with doubt - or a negative attitude - or depression - cut people like that out of your life
yet some of you argue that you need to reach them - wrong answer! - recovering alcoholics have to let someone else rescue the drunks - they can't risk going anywhere near a bar - men with roving eyes can't risk trying to help a damsel in emotional distress - get the idea? - the people God wants you to reach are not the ones who will destroy you - you need to pour into people out of your strengths - not out of your struggles
so if you're a former alcoholic - and a great parent - chances are God will use you to reach a struggling parent - or maybe even be a big brother or sister to a needy child
pour yourself - and your time - into people that need you - people that are weaker than you - but you never allow them to be your mentors! - or confidants - those who are stuggling don't need your problems, too - you only confide in those who are stronger than you - you only allow people stronger than you to impact your life - you only allow people wiser than you to pour into you
think about it like tutors - a high school senior may tutor a 9th grader - but the same senior needs a college student - or grad - to tutor them - but they would never ask someone who struggles academically to be their tutor!
so here's the balance - we receive from those we can look up to in some way - and we share with those who are looking up to us
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